Acts of Kindness
- by L.A. Law
- Posted on January 13, 2021
When I was younger, I felt I needed love to smack me in the face with obvious force. I wanted constant physical attention and positive loving words from a partner in order to feel their love. But older me appreciates acts of kindness as a love language. A loving touch and words of love still feel great and are necessary, but are fleeting and once said or given, they disperse like a gas. All I am left with is a memory of the touch or word which I replay in my mind until the next interaction. But I still crave that feeling of connection in between the loving moments and kind words, especially during the more mundane parts of the day.
Acts of kindness has staying power. I find myself sitting in my living room longing for that physical touch, which I know is coming as the day progresses, but in the meantime, my eyes land on an act of kindness that my lover has done for me. It could be the freshly vacuumed rug beneath my feet just prior to the start of my zoom dance class or the special bulb he put in the lamp to illuminate my world. Maybe it’s the picture collage of our families he had the idea to create for the holidays, exuding love into the room from across the years. Each of these acts of kindness stares back at me, bouncing the love energy from him to me, like the constant rays of sunshine penetrating my skin on a warm sunny day. Perhaps love is best expressed through this multi-layered combination of words, touch and acts of kindness. What do you see when you look around your room?
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When I was younger, I felt I needed love to smack me in the face with obvious force. I wanted constant physical attention and positive loving words from a partner in order to feel their love. But older me appreciates acts of kindness as a love language. A loving touch and words of love still…